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How To Make People Respect You In Seconds (use ethically!)

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Tommy Shelby is stone cold confident and seemingly fearless.

So in this video we’re going to break down what you can learn from him to be confident in high pressure situations in your own life.

 
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0:00 – Intro
0:18 – #1: Don’t overreact in situations of extreme pressure
1:13 – Exposure therapy
1:51 – #2: Use state breaking questions
3:57 – #3: Align your needs with the other person’s
4:25 – #4: View the world from their perspective
5:54 – #5: Give both the carrot and the stick
7:42 – #6: Turn trash into resources
9:19 – Ask yourself this question
9:30 – How do I build social power quickly?

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How To Make A Rude Person Look Insecure For Insulting You

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Today we’ll go over how to handle it when someone insults you.

We’ll start with a couple classic “destroy” comebacks. These are great at winning over an audience and embarrassing the person who insulted you. Be warned though, they may make the target of your comeback hate you.

Then we’ll cover some friendlier, more charismatic responses so that you come away looking cool and confident without making enemies.

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0:00 – Intro
0:17 – #1: The high status reframe
1:40 – #2: Accept the insult and use it against them
2:54 – #3: Insult the insult
3:27 – #4: Draw a boundary
4:31 – #5: The “tit for tat” or “eye for an eye” method
6:25 – #6: Show that you’re unaffected
8:18 – How do I build deep, unshakable confidence?

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How To Make Women Want You If You’re Quiet

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Timothée Chalamet has two traits you don’t often see go hand in hand. He’s self admittedly very awkward, and yet women find him incredibly attractive.

This is interesting because Timothée is not your stereotypical jock alpha male, in either looks or personality. He’s shy and at times seems uncomfortable when speaking: looking down, fidgeting, or putting his hands in his pockets.

How can someone who’s self admittedly awkward be so attractive? While he’s definitely handsome, much of Timothée’s attractiveness comes through in his personality.

Part of what makes Timothée so magnetic is how well he handles potentially awkward moments.

So in this video, we’ll go over 7 tricks you can learn from Timothée to turn your awkward moments into moments where you’re actually making yourself more attractive.

5 Common Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You (Brie Larson):

How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Starting A Fight (Jonah Hill):

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0:00 – Intro.
1:12 – #1: Radiate positivity
2:57 – #2: Appear unfazed by smiling through a tease
4:28 – #3: Don’t assume negative intent in ambiguous situations
6:22 – #4: Call out the awkwardness
9:03 – #5: Pass the conversational spotlight to the other person
9:58 – #6: Share your higher purpose
12:14 – #7: If this doesn’t go well, on with the rest of life

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If A Rude Person Disrespects You, Say This To Make Them Regret It

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We’ve all had a friend say something we don’t like.  Whether it’s a passive aggressive comment or a playful insult that goes too far, it can be tough to know how to respond.

So in this video we’re going to cover three ways to handle it when a friend crosses the line and you want to stand up for yourself without starting a fight.

We’ll start by breaking down a few examples with Jonah Hill.

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0:27 – #1: Fire back an insult yourself.
1:45 – #2: Draw a boundary.
5:00 – #3: Turn it into friendly banter.

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How To Argue With Someone Who Doesn’t Use Logic

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It seems to be harder than ever to get through to people logically.

In fact, some of the smartest people have the most sophisticated psychological booby traps when it comes to heated subjects. So in this video, we’re going to break down why sometimes people won’t listen to reason even when they’re smart, and what techniques you can use to finally get through to someone who can’t listen to reason.

Our video on Steven Crowder:

Our video on Trevor Noah

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0:00 – Intro.
2:12 – #1: Being stunned by new information.
3:01 – #2: Inaccurately summarizing the other’s perspective.
4:01 – #3: Misreading nefarious intent.
4:41 – #4: Regularly moving goalposts.
5:35 – #5: Yelling or getting angry.
6:12 – #6: Attacking someone’s character.
6:34 – #7: Retreating Without Concession
8:05 – 3 Key Mindsets To Change Their Mind
9:05 – The Most Dangerous Cognitive Dissonance

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4 Proven Ways To Make People Respect You

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Joe Rogan is so good at conversation that he just got $100,000,000 to license his podcast to Spotify. A big part of Joe’s success comes from his ability to command respect from a broad range of people. From fighters to movie stars to academics.

Which is why in this video we will go over 4 things you can do to command more respect in conversation.

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0:47 – #1: The way he speaks.
1:53 – #2: He does not allow people to derail him, if he has something important to say.
5:01 – #3: Joe will share his honest thoughts, even if people don’t like them.
8:50 – #4: Joe actively seeks to break the echo chamber.

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Selective Attention: How To Make People Respect You

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For many men, Don Draper is the epitome of confidence. What most people don’t realize is that confidence actually comes in two flavors. There is the external confidence that you project, which can make closing deals, making friends or seducing happen more naturally. There is also the internal confidence you feel which is how comfortable you are in any given situation.

In this video, we’re going to analyze what Don can teach us about both levels of confidence, and how mastering each level can take you from being nervous to completely confident in any situation.

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0:41 – Lesson #1: His relaxed body language.
2:58 – Lesson #2: Don is non-reactive.
5:18 – Lesson #3: He doesn’t try to convince other people.
6:57 – Lesson #4: The belief that he will be okay, no matter what.

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How To Connect With Anyone Straight Away

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Oprah Winfrey has a superpower. For over 30 years, people who speak to her have not been able to help but to open up, sometimes crying, expressing joy, or just showing the most vulnerable parts of themselves. That ability propelled Oprah to a net worth of four billion dollars not to mention launching books to the top of the bestsellers list and Dr. Phil’s television career. So in this video, we are going to explore how and why Oprah is the best connector that I have ever covered on this channel. And you’re gonna learn how to live so that people will naturally find themselves opening up and connecting with you. First off, Oprah sets the stage to connect literally.

Unlike many other TV show hosts, she is famous for walking the aisles of her studio audience and for sitting on the same couch as her guests. Later on, she would actually go into their homes for intimate interviews. Now, the lack of physical barriers such as a desk tends to make two people feel more connected and that’s why you are more likely to find a spark on a first date if you sit adjacent to your date rather than being separated by a table.

0:33 Set the situation so connecting is easy
1:17 Connect physically and emotionally
2:58 It’s easier to open up if there’s eye contact
3:29 Actively listen and paraphrase accordingly
4:38 Call out whenever there are commonalities

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6 Verbal Tricks To Make An Aggressive Person Sorry

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Jordan Peterson VS Cathy Newman Debate

How To Shut Down Conversational Bullies

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See for yourself how he deals with it and give us your opinion in the comments!

We’ve all found ourselves in conversation and felt attacked like we started off talking about one thing and then the other person twisted our words and before we knew it, we lost our cool, lost respect in their eyes, and maybe even acted like a jerk. Now, I don’t normally do the same person twice in a row but this interview between Cathy Newman and Jordan Peterson was just too interesting of an opportunity to discuss how you can handle someone who uses subtle conversational tricks to bully you into looking dumb. So in this video, you’re gonna see firsthand some of the most common tricks that people might be using on you and you’re also gonna learn how to reverse those so that you can walk out of a kind of aggressive situation having earned more respect than you had going in.

So first off, to stop a conversational bully, you have to realize what’s going on before it’s too late. Now, typically, a person will reveal their aggressive attitude early on with their tone of voice and their word choice. Check out the rest that we will show in this video and how Jordan Peterson tackles them.

1:49 Jordan Peterson deals with so-you’re-saying trap
2:39 Jordan Peterson deals with the “assuming the sale”
5:30 Jordan Peterson deals with the smash technique
7:08 But don’t straw man the other person’s ideas though
7:47 And visual imagery can also help
8:25 You can show them that they’re already agreeing with you

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The Call Out: How To Make A Rude Person Instantly Regret Insulting You

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How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Being A Jerk, Robert Downey Junior Style

We all have had those situations in life where we KNOW someone is trying to get to us. Maybe they keep asking embarrassing questions. Maybe they put us down with backhandedly. We know they are attacking us passive aggressively, but it feels like there is nothing we can do about it. Many of us don’t know how to handle this kind of conflict.

In this interview with Robert Downey Junior, Krishnan Guru-Murthy continually asks about his history with drugs and jail. In the context of the interview, the questions are out of line, yet Guru-Murthy continues to probe. This video will show you how Robert Downey Junior handled the situation and the exact steps that you can take to deal with these kinds of passive aggressive attacks.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a jerk, nor do you have to be a total door mat. You can politely be assertive and then exit the conversation by following the 5 steps.

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